Recently I had an argument with my roommate. We have different schedules and are in and out at different times. I’ve come back after my classes to find our door unlocked everyday. I decided to confront her about this and it turned into an argument. The argument was between the two of us, no outside parties were involved. We both have valuable belongings in our room that we want to keep. Our resident advisor had already told us that some things were stolen out of a few rooms recently. I was striving for the comfort of knowing that my possessions are safe while I am out of the room.
I was very respectful when I brought the subject up. I tried to explain my point of view and convince her of my outlook on the subject. The method I used to approach her was very typical of my style of argument. I never lose my temper and I usually prefer cooperation and negotiating. I would rather come to an agreement with someone, as opposed to winning an argument.
I would definitely say my parents have influenced the way I argue. When I was growing up if I had an argument with my parents they would try to negotiate or come to a consensus instead of saying I’m right, you’re wrong. I would also think the fact that I’m a female influences my arguing methods. I know it doesn’t hold true for all females but usually we’re more passive and not as competitive or confrontational as males.
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You use a good, recent example of an argument and tie in nicely your parents influence on the way you argue. However you never outright say if you prefer the adversarial or consensual style of argument. It would have been better if you went down the list and picked a few points to support your style of argument.
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